Emotional reasons for cheating in a relationship

Posted by admin on July 24, 2011 under Why do people cheat | Be the First to Comment

As mentioned in the main article “why people cheat”, there are both physical and emotional reasons for cheating in a relationship. This discussion deals with the emotional reasons for infidelity only. In this case we will be delving into the person’s psychology or mentality. If you can better understand your partner needs then you will be able to satisfy them.  Then there will be no need for your husband, wife or whoever to look elsewhere.

This doesn’t mean pampering them but simple things like saying how you miss them; calling to find out how his or her day went and even hugging and cuddling at night may satisfy that void he or she is missing. Sometimes it is just the simple things which can make a difference. It shows concern, care and appreciation on your side.

Take a look from your side and think about what make you feel appreciated and cared for. Although it may not be the same as your partner, you will start to appreciate what is lacking from the relationship. In other words, are you giving them what you expect them to give you?

Below is a list of reasons people cheat in a relationship:

Hatred of other people: These are people who have been cheated on in prior relationships or have seen situations where persons (e.g. mother, close friends) are hurt deeply due to infidelity. Their minds have been tainted by their own experience or from experiences of others. Therefore there reason for cheating in their relationships is simply because chances are their partner will do the same in the near future.

Mentally weak or low self-esteem: Some persons don’t know how to say no when they are confronted with certain situations. This low self- esteem comes usually from a young age and deals with being accepted. For example a guy may not be accepted as a “man” if they don’t talk to another woman or get her number or even sleep with her. Does this sound familiar to you?

Feeling ignored: When your spouse is feeling neglected in the relationship you are depriving them of the emotional support they need. Your partner may believe that he or she is inadequate or your feelings have changed towards them. This may leave a door open for someone else who can fill that void.

Loss of feelings by one or both persons: People fall out of love or have a change in feelings for different reasons. It may be a combination of emotional and physical reasons why this occur. It could be lack of attention, communication issues or a new person, almost anything can cause this. When feelings are not there or worst, there no longer exist then your  lover may be still in the relationship for other emotional reasons such as comfort or security.

He or she wants to move on: Some persons can’t move on or don’t know how to for different physical, financial or emotional reasons. These persons may have affairs intentionally to get the strength to move on or to put them in the position they can. For example they may start cheating in a relationship in order for you to break up with them.

Problems and issues: People are most vulnerable when their relationships are in trouble. This leads to constant quarreling (sometimes for the slightest things), lack in communication and other things similar to those listed above. Whatever reason it maybe if these issues are not resolved your lover may look for support elsewhere. It may be innocent at the start and then develop into something more.

Obsessive or controlling partner: If you ask anyone if they are controlling or obsessive the answer is usually no. Trying to control someone or obsess over them often cause emotional strife. You feel like a prisoner in your own home and in general. Everyone likes their space and freedom so by withholding it you are depriving them of their basic needs. Therefore, when an opportunity arises these persons are more inclined to take it.

Ego Booster and attention: Who does not like attention? Both males and females like attention from others. It boosts their confidence and also their ego. They will be thinking in their minds I am married or in a relationship and still have it (look sexy or handsome). Feeding an ego is like feeding a hungry animal the more you do it the more it wants and expect.

We have now reached the end of this article and we hope it gave you all the information you need about the emotional reasons why people cheat. It is meant as a guide for improving your relationship because if you know the reasons and problems, then you can come up with a solution to deal with it. Some persons as mentioned earlier will cheat no matter what.

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