What really goes on in an extra marital affair?

Posted by admin on July 24, 2011 under Types of Affairs | Be the First to Comment

An extra marital affair is considered the worst type of affair there is. This is because the act of marriage is a commitment. When you take those vows in front of friends and family it is supposed to mean something. Through the good and the bad you should be able to work things through. The sad thing is that it is more common today than ever. Many married men and women are being involved in extra marital affairs and the divorce rate has never been higher. The worst result of this type of infidelity is a divorce and that could become pretty nasty and costly.

This type of affair could be either an emotional or a physical one.  Emotionally cheating deals with your spouse investing more emotional energy with an external person other than yourself. As a result this in itself causes trouble because the time and energy invested by them usually results in the you feeling short changed. It causes conflict in a marriage in terms of jealousy and unnecessary tension.

You may accuse your spouse of having an affair and the greatest defense will be that they never touched the person. This may be true however, it is still considered cheating. It is not fair that when dealing with you, your spouse have problems communicating but when they are spending time with this other person he or she cannot keep their mouth shut. This alone shows a shift of feelings from you towards the other person.

The other form of an extra marital affair is a physical type. This is when you actually have physical contact with the person. This does not necessarily mean sex but fondling or inappropriate kissing can be considered. When talking about infidelity in a marriage we usually think about the physical type more. The two types discussed are actually extremes and in reality it is a mixture of both. It may primarily start as one affair and evolve into another or a combination. For example the outside relationship may start off emotionally based in which your spouse’s confides with this person. After a period of time the bond becomes closer and the emotional energy invested becomes greater. It only takes one unguarded moment in which it crosses the line from an emotional type affair to a physical one.

If you suspect your partner is having an extra marital affair you should view our article on how to catch a cheater. This would give you the tools which are necessary to discover whether he or she is cheating. Remember there is a lot at stake if your spouse is cheating. This includes STDs or an unwanted pregnancy (you may raise someone else’s child) so keep this in mind. Dealing with any type of infidelity is not easy and it comes down to two decisions. These are remaining in the relationship or leaving the relationship.

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