When to break up with someone
Posted by admin on July 24, 2011 under Breakup | 
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Have you decided to leave your lover? Are you thinking about when to break up with this person? Well go no further we have a few tips which will help you on your way to terminate this relationship. The first thing you have to get in your mind is that breaking up is never easy for anyone. The main reasons why people find it difficult to decide when to end a relationship is because they don’t want to hurt their spouse; they are afraid of leaving that comfort zone and start from scratch; their partner is too violent or it never seem like the right time (E.g. partner has lost job etc).
Do not worry you are not the only one with these issues so you do not have to put it off indefinitely. By getting a few pointers it will be a lot easier than you can imagine.
What do I need to do before I leave?
The first thing you need to do before you decide when to break up your relationship is to get your entire act together. If you are living separately and don’t have common responsibilities then things will be easier. However, if you live together, have children together or you are married then there are things which will have to be put into place before anything happens.
This means that you have a plan for the worst case scenario. You do not have to buy a new home but you should have someplace to stay in the event you are ejected from your accommodations. Always have a back up strategy ready because no one knows exactly how the other person will react at that time. Calm and nice people worst side will come out when it is breaking up time. Therefore the best advice is to take your time and trash out every possible outcome.
I am ready now when should we break up?
The ideal time you would want to do it is when the two of you are alone so you can have the talk. Ending a relationship in a public place or when family or friends are around is not usually a good idea. This can cause the person to react different to when they are alone with you. Embarrassment and emotions tend to be at a peak in public. Therefore to avoid additional hurt and agony keep your relationship private and issues in a private place (it also shows you respect them).
The only time you should consider having other people around when breaking up with someone is if you have an abusive or violent spouse or lover. In this case you may need to bring a friend, family members or even police (extreme though). If you consider he or she may be too violent then consider the other ways you can leave them such as over the phone or a letter. This may be considered the cowardly way however you have to do what is best for you under the circumstances.
Other things which should be taken into consideration are break ups during a low period in your spouse’s life. Who would want to leave someone when a family member died or they lose their job? However if you made the decision prior or was in the process of making the decision it does not make sense to stop it completely. Everyone is human therefore if you do want to be there to support them that is fine however, do not let it drag on. If you do you will continually make an excuse to remain in a relationship you are unhappy with. It is best to give yourself a deadline.
For example his or her mother died today I will give the person two weeks to recover and then move on. Two weeks may seem too soon but if you leave it any longer it will become difficult for both of you in the end.
We are now at the end of our article on when to break up with someone. We hope you find it useful in making that decision sharply.
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